14.FAMILY

What saying that the regulation of the family depends on the cultivation of the personal life means is this. Men are partial towards those for whom they have affection and whom they love, partial towards those whom they despise and dislike. Partial towards those whom they fear and revere; those whom they pity; and for whom they have compassion; and those whom they do not respect. Therefore there are few people in the world who know what is unacceptable in those whom they love, and what is good in those whom they dislike. Hence it is said, people do not know faults of their children and also do not know (or are not satisfied with) the bigness of their seedlings. This is what is meant, by saying that if the personal life is not cultivated, one cannot regulate his family.